ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITY & KINKY EDUCATIONAL WORKSHOPS

Code of conduct

ASKEW needs your energy, your ears, and most of all, your participation. In that spirit, we ask you to follow these guidelines to help us create a safer space where all attendees can have their voices heard & honored.

Safer Space Guidelines

  1. Respect others’ boundaries and needs.

    1. Always ask for explicit verbal consent before engaging or touching someone. Accept permission or refusal with grace.

    2. Don’t assume the identity or history (race, sexuality, gender, etc.) of other attendees. Understand if an attendee is unwilling to answer a question, or to offer an explanation.

    3. Keep confidence. Share what was said at ASKEW, not who said it. Some attendees may face repercussions from being linked to this conference.

  2. Respect your own boundaries and needs.

    1. Stay attuned to your physical, mental, and emotional needs. Feel free to leave a class at any time, for any reason. If something doesn’t feel right, please speak up-you may not be the only one.

    2. Don’t wait for someone to “get the hint.” Try to assertively vocalize your needs. If possible, speak directly to the person you have a concern with about it.

    3. If you do not feel comfortable doing this, please contact a staff member to help.

  3. ASKEW is a cooperative, co-created learning environment.

    1. We all have something to learn & something to offer. Monitor your level of engagement. Some voices are naturally louder than others, work to make sure everyone who is interested in speaking is being heard. Engage genuinely & respectfully with fellow attendees, presenters, and conference staff. Try to assume positive intent and focus on sharing ideas rather than judgements.

    2. Be aware of the effects your behavior has on others, and accept responsibility for it. Everyone, including you, will make unintentional mistakes. Expect to be confronted by others for those mistakes. These are learning opportunities.

Harassment Policy

ASKEW is dedicated to providing a harassment-free conference experience to all attendees regardless of background or identity. This policy applies to all conference spaces and related social events.

Feeling harassed or unsafe for any reason is enough to approach a staff member. Harassment comes in too many forms to list here (although offensive comments, following, photography, and unwelcome sexual attention all bear specific calling out), and often relies on the assumption the victim will not be heard. Our first priority is to listen.

After listening to the attendee, staff will discuss with the individual what course of action would make them feel most safe. We can assist participants in contacting venue security or local law enforcement, provide an escort, or otherwise assist those experiencing harassment to feel safe for the duration of the conference.

Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately and without equivocation. Conference staff may take additional action as deemed appropriate, up to expulsion from the event.

If you are being harassed, notice that someone else is being harassed, or have any other concerns, you are encouraged to bring the matter to conference staff, or tell someone who feels comfortable approaching us for you. Staff can be identified by their colored armbands or walkie talkies.